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Building with someone means you and that person equally bring something to the table. They match your effort. He should contribute to the relationship equally.

Not sorry. You even entertaining a situation like this indicates corrections that need to be made, along with the healing and growth that needs to occur. The women stepped back, gave them space to get it together, and reconnected when they were ready. Watch how quick he wants to get back on the right track. That is not where you belong. Once again, this is not where God wants you to be.

You did all this work, only for him to go give the benefits of his growth to someone else. That fear and concern contributes to the attachment and struggle with your inability to let go. The aftermath, if he does move on, is you being frustrated, bitter, and hurt all because you were pouring into a man who was not for you. Consider this, a lot of men will date up. You want him to want and desire you at his best.

Not best specific to finances and career, but best with regard to his character. A man willing to pour into you just as much as they hope you pour into them.

A man who wants you happy just as you desire their happiness. I hope the reasons presented here are clear as to why you should not build a man. The exception to this rule is effort you can see, tangible results.

These are the situations I want you to avoid. You are not his crutch. Support his effort in doing his part in the relationship. Be focused and mindful of the signs. Know and embrace your worth. These are words you hear and see all the time.

However, when I look around, I still see people doing it. It makes me question … do we really understand why we shouldn't settle? It sounds good coming out of our mouths, but are we really embracing it within our spirit? Am I really serious about holding strong to that, or am I just speaking it? I understand the struggle. There are many factors at play. I might as well deal with the one I already know.

However, I do believe with the right tools and approach you can conquer the obstacles you face in the dating process. Still, I get it. Again, I get it. It all depends on the person and where they believe they should be at that point in their life. Whatever the timeframe or age limit, a lot of women grew up knowing when they wanted to be married and have children.

All these factors start to contribute to you being willing to settle. Outside Pressure I grew up with three sisters, one being a twin. I know what outside pressure looks like. I completely understand it. You try to force the issue to make it happen, so you settle, but you aren't happy. Well, part of them understands why, but they fight it. They fight it with the hope they can turn it around, try to make right the bad decision they knew was doomed from the beginning.

Eventually that person will leave, the man will leave, or the relationship will mutually dissolve and what happens then—back at square one. It's pointless to accept temporary when it will lead to more issues. Settling affects your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health. There will be emptiness, a feeling of something missing in the relationship. If you were to have private conversations with some of your friends, your mother, or your aunts, and maybe even your grandmother, those who you sense were in similar situations, they can attest to how unhappy, empty, and lonely it felt being in that relationship or marriage for X amount of years.

One of the worse positions to be in is with someone and still feel lonely. This happens when you settle. There will be a void. They want out. It feels like a constant prison and they wish they can break free. God is not in the business of giving you lackluster relationships. He wants to give you greatness, something amazing. He would never want you to settle. However, you have to hold strong to that belief and be patient for when that time comes.

You knew after the first date, honestly, you may have known after the first phone call. Why continue the situation? Notice the word I used—dwelling, not engaged. However, you have to hold yourself accountable for situations you entertain far longer than you should. This is where listening and talking to God becomes essential, as I mentioned previously. Ask if you should even entertain this man. The situation will not magically turn itself around.

Doing this will help prevent you from becoming so worn down with the dating process. Worried about your clock ticking; then stop setting yourself up with a specific age to accomplish certain things. Place your focus on doing what God wants you to do and trust in His timing. This topic alone is delicate; however, many of you may not be facing this yet.

The more you become antsy and focus on time, the less focus you place on what you should be doing which would accelerate the time to accomplish your goals. You may get there sooner than you think if you keep your eye on the prize. Each situation is different. Focus on what you need to do to reach the finish line.

I want you to know you have to be more transparent and honest when people bring up the subject. Let them know how it makes you feel when they continue to badger you. They need to understand they have to fall back. When you give a BS answer, you only open the door for them to keep pushing because they sense the BS.

Transparency will help you. One more time, you cannot settle. It is unacceptable. Remember the consequences to settling. When you make the choice to do so, you rob yourself of the greatness God has for you. You will get it. Stick to it, put in the work, stay on track, and listen to what God wants you to do. When you adhere to the directions, everything will fall in place and settling will never be an option again.

Boys always want to play, while men are ready to work. Boys look for playmates, while men desire a helpmate. Lies, unwillingness to commit, disrespect, and other negative behaviors are not signs of a man who is serious about being with you. He wants to work with you, build with you, love you, and pour into you. You need to be aware of the signs from men who only look to play. Too many of you, your friends and family members constantly fall into these traps. The red flags are there.

You either see and ignore them, or miss them altogether; and overlook the traits and characteristics that tell you whether or not a man is serious or playing games. Even when you think this dynamic is OK, the impact is different when a man is straightforward about his true intentions. They lie. However, I guarantee many have tried the straightforward approach and were shut down. When he figures it out, he can try again and you two can discuss how to move forward. Accepting the lack of clarity and direction only allows him to remain vague and drag out the situation even longer.

Why would He want you to entertain a situation like that? While in the barbershop, a man told me he chose his WIFE, the woman he married, simply because she was the one who was around. She was the one that stuck by him. But guess what? Many times the woman who waits, ends up being the one who wakes up one day, and watches him leave to go be with someone else. He goes and marries some other woman. Again, for some of you, I know this hurts to hear. A lot of men confuse the hell out of you and it makes no sense.

What are you doing? An inconsistent action is a consistent answer … And the answer is, he is not serious. Does he show you effort? What are his words and do they line up with is actions? Even though actions speak louder than words, in this case, you can get confused. Oftentimes, his actions may say he wants to be in your life, or wants you as his girl, but his words say no.

The actions and words must be aligned. A lie is being told somewhere, or an issue is not being addressed. One way or another, it needs to be investigated and should not be ignored. An inconsistent action is a consistent answer. He gave you no clarity; the issue is still an unsolved mystery. The man God has for you is looking for a helpmate, not a playmate. The last thing he wants to do is play you, confuse you, and create nonsense in your life.

He wants you to feel confident that he is different and genuine about his intentions with you. Always know that boys will bring the confusion and chaos, but the man who is serious about you wants to provide clarity and peace. You can make that t-shirt, matter of fact, you can have it. But make sure you adhere to it and follow it.

Understand you need someone who is serious and be open, ready, and willing to put in the work on your end. When you come correct, he has no excuse but to do the same. I need genuine connection. I need to undress the layers of a soul…passion remains the fire, but now intimacy strikes the match, and friendship has become the fuel. A year-old woman named Michelle reached her breaking point.

She was frustrated with relationships, believing all the men she met were only after sex. She decided to give up on dating and focus on her career. Before she took that step, she prayed one last time and asked God to finally bless her with the man for her.

They spoke while there and got along well. They exchanged numbers and Michelle went home a happy woman. During this time, she spoke to me about it, along with the potential for it to turn into marriage. I was happy for her; however, I couldn't help but notice the vibe wasn't right. Think about that. They were content with hype and surface benefits of the relationship, but take that away and there isn't much else happening. Unfortunately, the relationship eventually failed and never made it to marriage.

He was not the man God had for her. The proof was in their lack of a genuine connection. Without it, a relationship will not have long term success and you can be assured this is not the man for you. Such a connection is rare to experience more than once in a lifetime; although, there are exceptions to the rule. Having a genuine connection with someone is a special experience. This doesn't happen with most people you meet, which is why a special connection is a strong indicator, and a necessary foundation to recognize that this is the man God has for you.

To give more clarity, chemistry accounts for the ability to get along with each other. They enjoy each other as they are, and it goes beyond common and shared interests. With a deep and genuine connection, it allows two people to be comfortable with vulnerability. You accept their layers and enjoy simply being in their space.

This is huge. You need to talk, open up, and share the deeper parts of you. Although you may not completely know a person, you want to gain a more in depth understanding. So, how does a person determine if there is one? And they got him. Reality smacks you in the face and you realize the relationship is a mess. Embracing this and allowing it to happen is good and healthy for you and for a relationship.

This is an example of lacking connection. You can be honest with them about what you need. Everything is natural. You can fake the chemistry and tolerate behaviors, or the person. But you can run away from a connection. You may believe the wall is there to protect and guard yourself, but as I mentioned in, God Where Is My Boaz, guarding your heart is specific to protecting it from fear, anger, negative energy, and others things that will corrupt or darken it.

A drive where the two of you can do nothing else but sit and talk—no distractions. How does the conversation flow? Is it fluid? Are you learning more about one another? Do you feel a stronger, more intimate connection, or are you ready to kick him out the car before you get to the third hour?

A lot of people are in relationships, right now, where they seem happy. You have to make time to sit, talk and vibe together. When you go more in depth, it begins to draw out the information.

Your intuition is a gift, a blessing. Think about it, when is your intuition wrong for you? Why ignore what you felt on the first date, or the first week talking to the guy? And a lot of times, you see it end the same way your intuition told you. When you give the unnecessary a chance you waste time. The risk of further damage occurs, which keeps you farther off the path God wants you to follow. We can pray, hear it and sometimes still move forward against what God has told us—it happens.

However, embracing your intuition will help you break that pattern. You have to be willing to listen. No one has to tell you that it is there. You know it, you feel it. But are you willing to be honest with yourself and embrace it? Bottom line, you cannot and should not ignore the lack of a connection. In the end, it is one of the necessary steps in building the foundation of a successful relationship. When you have a genuine connection, you want to work through things together.

You may not say it, but part of you thinks it. There are other ramifications that can occur from this disconnect which leads to a extremely unhealthy household. Despite believing staying together is best, the disconnect can negatively affect the children. It may have happened in some of your lives. You may have grown up in a household where your parents married or single created a false and unhealthy perception of love and relationships.

An unhealthy environment due to broken relationships and people who had no connection trying to deal with one another. As I said earlier in the chapter, a connection is like two spirits recognizing their counterpart. God wants you to be with your counterpart. Be mindful of this. You have to like who they are and that starts with being yourself.

Get to know who you are, love who you are, show the world; and the man that is for you, who truly loves you, will embrace that person. Overall, Patricia is successful and accomplished but when it came to love and men, things always fell apart.

So my question, always, at some point in the session is did you pray and ask God should you be dealing with these men? Can you see any similarities? I also want you to think about how you would respond when asked the same question. And every time I pray that prayer, that guy ends up leaving. Sorry to burst your bubble and disappoint you.

As popular as it is and as comforting as it may be, simply telling God to take this person away and let it be done is the wrong request. You restrict your ability to love and receive love, stunt the growth and kill the potential of that relationship. What do I mean by that? However, when he is truly into you and real feelings are involved, now your resistance gives him pause.

As much as you may not want to believe it, men get played too. They may not get played as much as women, but way more than you realize. Nor does the man's unwillingness to let you go mean he is the man for you.

I just want you to understand that this approach of asking God to remove certain men from your life can lead you to pushing away the man who you can potentially have a great relationship with. This will cause him to hold back because you are. Simply relying on God to remove a man is not the way to do it. The better approach is to ask God should you be dealing with this man, is he for you, and how should you proceed? This goes back to what I said before, you have to come to God ready to listen.

I get it. Another aspect to consider when making sure you hear the right thing is opening yourself up to receive the answer. Very well written and written in a way that is easily understood. He takes the time to point out things that some of us may have already known but have been ignoring.

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I really recommend gifting this to other young women starting Jr. It helps you look at the bigger picture and reminds you what God wants for us. He doesn't want us to be in unhappy relationships with men just because we're lonely and we don't think we deserve more. It has helped me realize that I want to wait and develop myself for my next relationship if God wants that for me instead of jumping into another bad relationship as many do after divorce. I loved this man unconditionally.

However he couldn't love me back. He left and my world was flipped upside down. This book not only helped me to understand why he wasn't ready but to make sure I don't make the same mistake with another man in the future.

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A compliment to Stephan Labossiere's a. Don't get caught up with the man God never intended you to be with I enjoyed listening to Stephan narrate his book and he did a really good job.

His voice was so smooth and I appreciate the honesty he expressed in this book.