Is it normal to hate your boyfriends ex

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The designer looked at me like I was Ann Coulter. Had I misread the cues? Circle of trust: I have a habit of becoming sort of obsessed with the people my partners dated before me. What do we have in common? How are we different? Could we have been friends in a parallel universe? Who has more followers? Take my friend Linda, for example not her real name.

Linda is a year-old event planner and part-time dominatrix. Her "master plan" to steal your boyfriend away from you may mostly exist in your imagination, and she may just be trying to heal. Under different circumstances, you guys might've hit it off as friends.

Hating her will do nothing but make you look bitter. While it may be a fun subject to talk about with your girl friends, it's not worth wasting your breath. If she continuously talks negatively about you and your relationship, let her.

Her jabs will make her look weak and not fighting back will prove that you're mature enough to not let it get to you. Ultimately, she'll get over it and realize she's not getting a rise out of you.

Like that old saying, "Kill them with kindness. You're making your relationship all about her. Don't mess that up over nothing. He chose to date you for a reason. Instead of putting so much energy in keeping his ex out of his life, focus on keeping him in yours. Trust that he will be with you no matter how many exes you both have. She may not be your favorite person, but don't forget that she is one.

You guys don't have to be best friends, but being cordial toward her proves that you're confident in who you are and your relationship. Sign in. Join YourTango Experts. Photo: weheartit.