Why is revenge not on

All I ever did was raise my hand ask her to slow down, share an experience and shut my mouth. I was raised Catholic. I thought I was going to die.

Right there Little did I know behind the scenes was the negative comments from the Epic trainer.. So I go home and and Email my director. Come to find out.

The wrong thing to do. But Revenge right. Letting her know that her words have power. That they convey a meaning, that it may be taken in a group setting as perhaps well let me give you an example I would like to introduce you to our to our new provider: cheryl and ben versus Ben and of course….

So after my emails. She emailed me back for a meeting and who was there? HR and her and I was drilled and of course why then she said if I was your doctor well then HR said well it could be taken either way.

Well, then the director said she went to everyone in that meeting and asked them what they thought so apparently she felt she had to be right huh?

Then that just places me in even a worse position with people. So after that what chance do I have. Then I am set up to work with the very people that were in that meeting a few days later. That weekend I have to work with her but believe me my experience of her prior to that was not a good one.

First, 1. She was rude and abrupt, she did not even know I was suppose to orient with her. She was down right mean. She has a stance which is upright chest thrust forward and and unyielding attitude.

This was the worst experience in my life worse than my breast cancer and chemo. I would rather go thru that again than what I went thru here and I really mean it. These people were the worst I have dealt with ever in any system anywhere ever, never, ever have I ever experienced this atrocity. You have nothing to fear from me but what you should fear is the medical entity that does not supervise the young. I am of the ones that cannot fight nor want to. I forgive. I had platform here to air.

I have a good life. The job was never meant to be from the day I filled the paper work out. I have a family I love.

My only question to you to answer is:. I put a tube down a man throat after he was stabbed in the neck, I got in just before his trachea shut, just in the nick of time..

St Tammany. You need to see the magnificent movie titled Count of Monte Cristo. It entices you to reciprocate when you are wronged by evil-minded people. He later became a consequential warrior, massacred his enemies, and founded the Qajar Dynasty. The Church discourages us from resorting to revenge. The reason is clear…. Religion is designed to pacify people, in particular those who live under oppressive regimes.

Hence, the heartless financiers and profiteers of such regimes will be at ease with their malevolent life styles! In response to Ms. Illegal revengefull acts are committed by oppressive political regimes that hold a large population of prisoners often for financial or political gaines.

With revenge we reclaim that part of our soul that the other person took from us when they wronged us. So long as the crime remains unavenged our life force is supressed. After avenging ourselves we become complete again. Though of course in the Christian cosmos we are not allowed to embrace these triumphant feelings and move on. What concerns society is the preservation of its monopoly on violence, something that is treatened when people take retribution into their own hands. In truth the powerless in our societies do not have the means to to revenge themselves while the rich and powerful can indulge themselves all they want.

Forgiveness for the wretched of the earth is simply an accomodation with their own powerlessness, it is a practical necessity, not a moral imperative. APS regularly opens certain online articles for discussion on our website. Effective February , you must be a logged-in APS member to post comments.

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But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience. Preliminary — as yet unpublished results — show that revenge-seekers only get a momentary feeling of pleasure, Chester found.

That begins a cycle and it starts to look like an addiction… then afterwards you feel worse than when you started," he explains. And that might help explain why those who seek the high of revenge fail to anticipate disastrous personal consequences. The footballer Zinedine Zidane, for instance, will forever be remembered for head-butting Marco Matterazzi in the World Cup.

Along a similar vein, Richard Nixon is well-known for his list of foes, the goal being to "screw his political enemies". Some of his dirty tricks later led to his forced resignation. Unfortunately, revenge gives people pleasure Credit: Getty Images.

The question then becomes, why has this seemingly destructive behaviour persisted in our evolution if it can cause us so much trouble? The answer is that far from an evolutionary mistake, revenge serves a very useful purpose. Michael McCullough puts it this way: although people might say seeking revenge "is really bad for you" — that it might ruin your relationships, for example — the fact that it exists at all is a very good thing.

Its main goal is to work as deterrent, which in turn has clear advantages for our survival. Consider prison or gang culture, where if you meddle with the wrong person, revenge attacks are a sure consequence. In Leonardo DiCaprio's Oscar-winning performance in The Revenant, so powerful is his desire for revenge that it keeps him alive. With broken bones and open wounds, he drags himself through a hostile and dangerous terrain to avenge his son's killer.

Even the threat of revenge might deter an attack, says McCullough. Only then can the avenger move on "because that goal has been fulfilled", in a similar way that we only stop feeling hungry after we have satiated our appetite. So if a main purpose of revenge is about deterring harm, it is a very good thing indeed. That is not to say, says McCullough, that we should encourage people to indulge in seeking revenge.

It might also be comforting to know that not everyone acts out on their desire to seek revenge. One study found that men get more pleasure from the idea of revenge. Male participants were found to have more activity in the reward circuit of the brain than women when they saw cheating opponents receive an electric shock. In another study , Ozlem Ayduk of the University of California, Berkeley and colleagues, found that those with specific personality types were more likely to act violently after rejection.

She found that certain individuals had higher levels of "rejection sensitivity" — who were more likely to expect rejection based on past experiences. These individuals were also found to be more neurotic and to show anxiety and depression.

Rejection is an existential threat, so that expectation [of rejection] actually prepares — both mentally and physiologically — the person to defend themselves," says Ayduk. Retaliatory aggression for these individuals was therefore a "knee-jerk" reaction to feeling rejected. Revenge is part of human nature Credit: Getty Images. It is important to note that not everyone who has the "rejection sensitive profile" has violent tendencies. Some deal with their feelings of rejection in other ways, such as self-harm.

Aggression is only one of the responses," says Ayduk. As well as that, those who are more prone to retaliatory aggression can learn ways to overcome their outbursts, in a similar way that an addict can learn to control his or her urges with various psychological tactics.

Comic book protagonists such as Batman and Spider-Man are motivated by a desire to avenge the death of a loved one or seek vengeance for those who are perceived as helpless — and they are two of the most popular superheroes of all time. Quentin Tarantino's latest film, Kill Bill — Vol. Some argue that experiencing revenge, even through works of fiction, does not ease feelings of anger and vengeance.

It increased those feelings of anger and retribution. So how does someone cope with a need for revenge? The first, and perhaps most important, step is taking responsibility for your emotions, like Bud Welch did. It's very important for the person to take responsibility for their anger and resentment.

Since losing his daughter in the Oklahoma City bombing, Welch has traveled around the country and given lectures on his experience and his opposition to the death penalty. He became associated with Murder Victims' Families for Reconciliation, a Massachusetts-based group that helps families cope with the loss of slain loved ones. To the anger of some Oklahoma City victims' families, Welch strongly opposed the execution of Timothy McVeigh in and warned his execution would not bring anyone true peace of mind.

Two years after McVeigh's execution, Welch says some families are still searching for the sense of closure they thought his death would bring. He just went to sleep. Two objectives of the criminal justice system are to obtain retribution for the crime victim while also rehabilitating the offender — goals which can seem to clash at times.

Some states have adopted victim offender reconciliation programs, where convicted offenders admit wrongdoing, have a supervised encounter with the people they've victimized and, under the guidance of a counselor, work out a restitution agreement.

Under these programs, criminals pay for their crimes while having the chance to earn the forgiveness of their victims. The pilot — or pilots — who dropped the bomb that killed Ali Abbas' parents and took away his arms have never been identified publicly and do not face any criminal charges. Pentagon officials have said it is very difficult to match individual soldiers with the targets they hit in combat, especially when multiple strikes are involved.

But perhaps an approach similar to a victim offender reconciliation program could help Ali deal with his own need for vengeance. It's hard to say, but if the process was made clear to the boy, the pilot is making serious steps to fully understand how he impacted him, it might be easier.